The dream of most enthusiastic secondary school leavers is to get admission into any of the tertiary institutions in Nigeria especially the University. A dream that rarely comes to pass. The euphoria of being called an undergraduate drives many young boys and girls into another ecstatic dimension, this unimaginable joy is as a result of being free from parental control.
Many juveniles and campus rookies in the Universities see their stay on campus as an ample opportunity to live freely among peers, enjoy life or make all sorts of relationship whereas some students make maximal use of their time on campus to acquire academic excellence and intellectual stardom. All these dramas make the campuses ‘another world’.
One of the scandalous and juvenile delinquencies that is commonly practice among students in Universities and other tertiary institutions is cohabitation of male and female students in same room. They live together, eat together, bath together and do every other things together like legally married husbands and wives.
They are married in school but single at home. They become ‘Campus Couples’. The cause of this ‘amateur marriage’ could be as a result of influences placed on them by the campus environment or in most cases it could be caused by uncontrollable emotions_lust which they misplace with love.
It is appalling that some of the students whom their parents sent to school in pursuit of higher education have deviated to purse shadows.
Obviously the type of relationship that boys and girls on campuses engage themselves has changed from simple boyfriend and girlfriend relationship it used to be to a more wild one. In the sense that a young boy and girl will go as far as renting a room to live together.
This does not only make such students irresponsible but also makes them bad representative of whom so ever that might have sent them to school and as well bad influence to society at large. Cohabitation does not entirely mean living together in one room apartment, it may also involves situations whereby some students pay unregulated visit to opposite gender.
However it is important to note that the females are not the only ones visiting guys as it is vice versa in some cases, in the sense that guys can act the other way round.
Meanwhile cohabitation among students has innumerable consequences which many of them who venture into this miasma-tic act do not have a prior knowledge of.
Firstly, living together in a room with an opposite gender who is not a relative in the name of love drifts students away from the main purpose why they came to school. This amateur marriage in school does not give one every opportunity to focus mainly on academics activities since there would always be many domestic duties to do at home especially for the females like everyday cooking, washing of dishes, and laundry for their partner and themselves.
However, the males instead of being focused on their academics become obsessed with how to please their partners thereby causing more harm than good to their lives as students, and making living more complex for themselves as young students.
Not only that, cohabitation is another way where students spend their parents’ resources extravagantly. Many of these people who engage themselves in school marriage find it difficult to withstand financial challenges and high cost of living together as ‘practicing’ husband and wife and they go about imposing unnecessary tasks on their parents by cooking false school levies thereby making life unbearable for their parents especially for the poor ones.
Further more, Cohabitation among students could lead to unwanted or premarital pregnancy. There is nothing else that could be an outcome of two young, opposite and unrelated genders staying in one room apartment except pregnancy, which most times is accompanied by sexually transmitted diseases and infections. Meanwhile, this mostly affect the female partner as in most cases they have to curtail school activities in order to nurse their baby without the knowledge of their parents.
Some girls who couldn’t bear the shame of premarital pregnancy or wouldn’t want it to impede their education go as far as aborting innocent foetus as constant abortion or perpetual consumption of contraceptive pills are another practice associated with cohabitation among students which would certain have negative health effect in future.
More so, the menace of cohabitation is not very far from emotional and psychological trauma. More than 98% of students that lived as campus couples end up not getting married if they managed to graduate. It could be championed by many factor which was not put into consideration before engagement.
Some of them include, parental disapproval,incompatible health or medical issues, ethnical pressure and lost of confidence in themselves. This invariably results to heart break which also contributes to anxiety and depression or in critical cases, suicide becomes the only appealing option.
It is worthwhile to understand the fact that cohabitation especially among students of higher learning is indeed an immoral practice that jeopardizes the entire future of any one who engages it. In nutshell, every student is hereby advised to keep off and flee for dear life.
Guest Post By: Inevitable Emmanuel